If it's all about self-confidence (is it?) why not talk about that topic.

One thing I like to do is "ruin my own day" by having the grumpies or the sads. How stupid, I know. Here's the thing, you do it too.

It almost immediately becomes <eeyore>oh garsh I can't do nothin righ</eeyore>, which becomes self defeating.

I feel like a lot of what I need to do is own as actually-true some of the things that get worn out as clichés.

• Nobody's perfect.
• Everybody makes mistakes.
• Feelings are just things.
  • You are full of monkey DNA.
• It gets better.

[updates 2022-02-25]

• Don't go down the "revenge" or "vindication ratholes, BUT it's possible you are often not the actual "problem"
• Own-as-True, all the way down to the logic circuits is sometimes hard, very hard.
• Fuck Emotions? Um. Well. Not the good ones but yeah, generally.

And there are clichéd thins you are supposed to do.

• Be nice to people.
• Think before you speak.
• Do neutral-human-word-for-meditation.
• Eatwellexercise
• Brush your teeth.
• Sleep well.
• Really think about what to do with what's left over.

Signing off. I've done none of those things so far today.