As you are a human-like agent, you have probably found yourself in the following situation:

You are resentful towards someone!

Or something on that spectrum.

If this someone happens to be a person whose "approval" you seek, there can be all kinds of ugly feedback mechanisms that can really stroke that resentment (real good!)

These usually take the form of black, angry ruminations.

Here is the thing, though. You are increasingly pissed off at a process in your head that attempts to model interactions between you and resentee.

Not, importantly, and I repeat, not the actual person themself.

So, you are in a literal sense mad at yourself. You are having arguments with yourself and storming off angrily at the outcome.

Don't feed the trolls.